Aneurysms: The Hidden Cause Of Relationship Problems

It’s the middle of the night and I’m so tired. It’s absolutely ridiculous but I’m afraid to fall asleep. I’m afraid that I will never wake up again. I’m having surgery again in San Francisco in another few weeks. I wish they would do it now so I don‘t have to be scared anymore. I wish so desperately I could lay with you now.

I wish your arms were wrapped around me. Hold me. Make me feel safe. I wish I could feel safe just for a moment. I want to stop crying now. So bad. I wish we were close just for a minute. I wish I could call you now. Hear you talk. Make me feel wanted and cared about. I don’t know what my problem is. I'm alone. I’m lonely. I miss you.

When Relationships Fall Apart After A Brain Aneurysm 

I was in a relationship that I thought would last forever. He was my best friend and partner, but then something happened that changed everything. I suffered a ruptured brain aneurysm.  So often people believe their love can last forever.  It’s frightening but many people that go through this lose their partners.  I don’t blame him anymore.  He made me lose trust when he didn’t come to my room to say goodbye.  I wasn’t supposed to live.  I wanted only him and my son.   I was devastated.  

A month later I was sent home a different person.  I took my anger out on him.  That isn’t fair.  Things just haven't been the same since. My relationship has fallen apart and I’m  not sure how to fix it.  Reality is that I can love him forever but never allow him back.  

It's been hard watching our once close relationship deteriorate. It feels like I've lost a part of myself. But I’m not alone. Many people suffer from the same thing after a brain aneurysm. The aneurysm can change who you are and how you interact with others. It's important to remember that some of your loved ones are still there for you, even if things are different now. But so often relationships fall apart.

Breakups are never easy, but they can be especially difficult to deal with if you're still healing from a brain aneurysm.

The sad reality is that breakups can trigger all sorts of emotions, from anger and resentment to sadness and despair. And while it's perfectly normal to feel sad after a break up, it's important to try to stay positive and focused on healing your brain. Here are a few tips for how to heal from a breakup after a brain aneurysm: 

     -Take some time for yourself. It's important to give yourself time to grieve and process what happened. Don't be afraid to cry, journal, or talk to a friend about how you're feeling. 

     -Avoid making any major decisions. After a breakup, it's best to avoid making any big decisions, like moving or quitting your job. Give yourself time to heal emotionally before you make any drastic changes in your life.

     -Focus on taking care of yourself. Now is the time to focus on taking care of yourself, both physically and emotionally. Eat healthy, exercise, get plenty of sleep, and find ways to relax and de-stress.

     -Seek professional help if needed. If you're finding it extremely difficult to cope with your breakup, don't hesitate to seek professional help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide valuable support and guidance during this difficult time.

It's been a few months since my brain aneurysm and I'm finally starting to feel better. I've been spending more time with my friends and family, and they've been really supportive. I've also started seeing a therapist, which has helped me a lot. Through therapy, I've learned how to deal with my anxiety and depression. 

I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to have a successful relationship again, but that's okay. I'm learning to love myself first and foremost. And I know that if I can do that, then anything is possible. If you're going through something similar, don't give up hope. Things will get better, I promise. 

For some there are many ways to cope with the changes in a relationship after a brain aneurysm.  I realize now the difficulty my partner faced.  I wish I could go back sometimes and fix things but that was past.  Therapy can be extremely helpful in dealing with the emotions you're feeling. You can also join support groups so that you can talk to others who have gone through similar experiences. It's important to reach out and ask for help when you need it. 

Difficulty for Partners

After a brain aneurysm, it is common to feel sad. This is because the aneurysm can damage the area of the brain responsible for positive emotions. As a result, people may find that they are more easily angered and may take their anger out on their partners. This can be difficult to cope with, but it is important to remember that it is not personal.

The person with the brain aneurysm is not angry with you, they are just having trouble regulating their emotions. If you can, try to be understanding and patient. In time, the person may be able to regain control over their emotions and the relationship will improve.

Though it is understandably sad to think about, people often take their anger out on those closest to them after suffering a brain aneurysm. This is because the person suffering from the aneurysm is experiencing a great deal of stress and anxiety. Their loved ones are usually the ones who are closest to them and whom they feel they can trust the most.

Unfortunately, this often leads to the loved ones being on the receiving end of the person's anger. It is important to try to understand where this anger is coming from and to be patient with the person who is suffering. With time and understanding, hopefully the person will be able to work through their anger and find a more healthy way to cope with their stress and anxiety.

Dealing with the aftermath of a brain aneurysm is never easy, but know that you're not alone. There are people who have gone through the same thing as you and come out the other side. Seek out help and support when you need it and take things one day at a time.

Should one date after a brain aneurysm?

I believe that people should take their time before entering the dating world after experiencing trauma. When we experience something sad or traumatic, it can be difficult to process our emotions and move on. We may feel like we are not ready to date or that no one could possibly understand what we are going through.

However, rushing into the dating world can often make things worse. We may find ourselves comparing our new partners to our exes or feeling triggered by certain behaviors. If we take our time to heal, we can develop a more positive outlook on dating and relationships. We may even find that we are better able to connect with others when we are honest about our experiences and feelings.

It's hard to imagine starting a new life after everything falls apart. You might feel like you're standing at the bottom of a deep, dark hole with no idea how to climb out. But it's important to remember that you can take things one day at a time. Some days will be better than others, but as long as you keep moving forward, you'll eventually reach the top. The first step is to accept that your old life is over. It might be sad, but once you've let go, you'll be able to start building something new and better. So take a deep breath and start today. One day at a time.